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Is it true that parents of the bride and groom wash their feet and even drink the water at the wedding in Nepali?😳Is it common habit?
Is it true that parents of the bride and groom wash their feet and even drink the water at the wedding in Nepali?😳Is it common habit?
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I asked my mom and here's what she told me. Yes, it's true that parents wash their daughter's and son-in-law's feet and sprinkle the water into their mouth, but not drink. This ritual is performed during 'kanyaadaan', which literally means to "donate the girl" by the girl's parents to her husband's parents. As you might already know, in Nepalese culture, a girl has to leave her parents' home and live in her husband's home after marriage. This is why, it's called 'kanyaadaan" as the parents are giving away their daughter. According to my mom, this is supposedly a Baun culture. Our culture doesn't have the feet-water drinking ritual so I'm not sure if it's still prevalent.
No, their partner is usually from India. They live near the Indian border and share the same culture and language so, they intermarry across borders. The woman usually stays home, cooks food, and do other household chores. The women start going outside when they reach middle age.
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I have never about that custom. There are so many cultures around Nepal and they differ a lot from each other so it is difficult to say.
I heard that bride drinks the water which was used to clean the groom's feet.😷😬
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@ChronicProcrastinato Oh, so the habit related to marrige also depends on the ethnic group? I see. I read an article on web which was written by a Japanese who joined Nepali wedding.
Drinking the water which was used to clean the groom's feet.....😱 No offence, but I worry it may cause stomachach because it sounds unsanitary😅 But I understand the action is done to express welcoming or love for the person.
Drinking the water which was used to clean the groom's feet.....😱 No offence, but I worry it may cause stomachach because it sounds unsanitary😅 But I understand the action is done to express welcoming or love for the person.
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@cisca
Yeah, that's disgusting.😲 I can't understand how this will benefit the couple's relationship.
I would be more worried about the bad smell from the feet rather than stomachache.😁
In my birthplace, the father-in-law and brother-in-law(elder) of a woman are not allowed to see her face. She has to cover her face with a veil which is actually a part of her sari.😆 And the woman cannot leave the house unless she is accompanied by a male member of the family.😂
I'll ask my mom for confirmation and more details about the feet-juice ritual.😉
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@ChronicProcrastinato ahahaha Thanks for your frank and honest opinion. I agree with you. If I were the bride, I wouldn't be willing to drink it😓
Oh, aren't they allowed to see the bride's face? And the bride is usually accompanied by a male member of the family? So people usually choose their partner who lives near their home or town?
Oh, aren't they allowed to see the bride's face? And the bride is usually accompanied by a male member of the family? So people usually choose their partner who lives near their home or town?
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@cisca
I asked my mom and here's what she told me. Yes, it's true that parents wash their daughter's and son-in-law's feet and sprinkle the water into their mouth, but not drink. This ritual is performed during 'kanyaadaan', which literally means to "donate the girl" by the girl's parents to her husband's parents. As you might already know, in Nepalese culture, a girl has to leave her parents' home and live in her husband's home after marriage. This is why, it's called 'kanyaadaan" as the parents are giving away their daughter. According to my mom, this is supposedly a Baun culture. Our culture doesn't have the feet-water drinking ritual so I'm not sure if it's still prevalent.
No, their partner is usually from India. They live near the Indian border and share the same culture and language so, they intermarry across borders. The woman usually stays home, cooks food, and do other household chores. The women start going outside when they reach middle age.
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@ChronicProcrastinato Wow! kuwashiku oshiete kurete arigatou 😄( Thank you for telling me about it in detail .) I'm impressed by the answer you gave me. Please say "thank you" to your mom😄
Oh, they sprinkle it but don't drink. Sounds like it's very formal ritual. It's interesting why people in the past started the ritual in the way. I wonder "feet" has special meaning there. But at least I can understand that marrige can be a kind of 'farewell"...I mean she'll start living in the other family, so...I guess this ritual means a lot for Baun people.
(Maybe also chettri??)
Oh, they sprinkle it but don't drink. Sounds like it's very formal ritual. It's interesting why people in the past started the ritual in the way. I wonder "feet" has special meaning there. But at least I can understand that marrige can be a kind of 'farewell"...I mean she'll start living in the other family, so...I guess this ritual means a lot for Baun people.
(Maybe also chettri??)
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@ChronicProcrastinato Wait, "The women start going outside when they reach middle age."?? So the bride is usually accompanied by a male member of the family every time she goes out during young days?😳 Is it to protect her from rape, burglar, and other danger? Or to prevent her from love affair or something? Sounds like job-sharing between men and women is very clear in the area. Woman who wants to earn money and work more freely may not be able to live there. 😅
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@cisca
In Hinduism, daughters are regarded as the incarnation of Goddess Laxmi (Goddess of Wealth). Parents even bow to their daughters during various occasions for good omen.
I'm not sure why women aren't allowed to go out. People there are uneducated and conservative so, I think they are still following conventional gender roles.
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@ChronicProcrastinato Oh, daughters are regarded as the incarnation of Goddness? No, offence, but my image of "female in developing countries" is like they live in the male chauvinist. That's good to know they treat daughters nicely.
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